DEAR KIM: I have just learned that my wife is cheating on me with my cousin.
I’m 34 and she is 28. My cousin is 21 and leaves in my house in Karen as he attends university in the capital.
I have a stable job, and my wife too has a nice job.
I must confess that our sex life is dead. The last time we had sex – bread in Nairobi only cost Ksh 45. In short, I don’t remember the last time we had sex.
I no longer feel that old flame – but the fact that my cousin, who is sleeping under my roof has been bonking my wife is killing me.
Just the other day she left our bedroom at night saying she was going to watch a movie with my cousin in the sitting room.
I actually peeped and saw them stealing a kiss, exchanging saliva in my house, on my sofa set.
I just crawled back to bed feeling so mad.
Am I a man?
What should I do.
First, you are man. I know that this must be very difficult for you. I must commend you for being strong and behaving in a very controlled manner.
That said, it is important that you take time to speak with your partner. You can invite an elder, a relative or any other family member and have this matter addressed.
Take time to speak to your spouse. It wouldn’t hurt to talk to your cousin about your concerns, and ask him to find alternative accommodation so you can try to sort things with your wife.
If things don’t work, then you can take time off, get a breather, freshen your mind, then find time to try and sort things again.